From Cosmopolitan to Catholicism: Hook-ups VS. Summer Love

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With summer quickly approaching and people already working on their tans; magazine articles are beginning to shift toward things like How to Get a Perfect Beach Body, This Years Best Waterproof Makeup and How to Look Less Terrible After Swimming in the Ocean. Among these headlines is usually “Hottest Summer Hook-ups” or something to that extent.

While the idea of these “hook-ups” seems to be appealing and exciting, it is not something that should be considered praiseworthy. In all honesty, hook-ups are only about self-gratification and using someone elses body as an object of pleasure.

I would like to propose an idea contrary to this– the idea of summer love. You might be thinking “Wait, aren’t they the same exact thing?” Well the answer is no. I’m not talking about the “Summer Lovin’” Grease stylization of a glorified hook-up… I’m talking about love– in the summer. I’m talking about mutual respect for another person’s body and soul. I’m talking about Christ-like love.

In his 1st letter to the Corinthians, St. Paul famously presents what love is and also what it is not. He writes “it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests it is not quick tempered it does not brood over injury” he says “Love is patient, love is kind”.

This kind of love is what we should give and also hope to receive from those around us. The great thing about this type of love that it is not limited to one type of relationship. It is possible for us to treat everyone around us this way.

So ditch the summer hook-up mentality and take the summer love challenge. Try loving everyone around you and showing them the type of love that Christ desires to give them. Be that light of love in the world.

This will provide so many opportunities for happiness and healing for you and for those around you. It could change their lives and it definitely will change yours.

I will be praying for all of you As you embark on this lifelong journey of love.

God loves you so much and so do I.

1 Corinthians 13

 

Swimsuit shopping and soul searching

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It’s that time of year again that causes girls to have more emotional breakdowns than a Nicholas Sparks movie. That’s right. It’s swimsuit season. The time when us women regret most of the choices that we’ve made this winter… like  not going to the gym and eating that piece of chocolate cake. It’s time to say goodbye to big sweaters and hello to bathing suits that cover little to nothing…..  Or is it?

It actually doesn’t have to go that far. Swimsuit shopping doesn’t have to be something that causes anxiety. Over the past two years, the vintage swimwear look has definitely been making a comeback. I’m not talking about the bikini top with the high waisted bottoms. I’m talking about the halter top  boyshort one pieces…  Think Marilyn Monroe in her famous white one piece.  She retained all of her classic beauty and her style without forfeiting modesty. Not only are one pieces making a comeback: they are HIGHLY chic and stars like Kirsten Dunst, Rihanna, and Penelope Cruz have all been spotted sporting this more modest suit. This one piece is far from the dreaded “mom-suit” and comes with a confidence and class of its own. The added coverage makes for a more pleasant dressing room experience and will most likely be more “wave friendly” than an itsy bitsy bikini.

There is also the very important spiritual dilemma that comes along with swimsuit shopping. I know that you might be thinking that that’s crazy and religion has nothing to do with a thing like this. But trust me, it’s a pretty big deal. In the gospel of Matthew,  Christ says “You have heard it said that ‘you shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28) I don’t know about you (but I’m feeling 22) but I don’t want to cause anyone to fall into mortal sin like that. And you might say that it’s the guys job to control himself but I think that as women, we have a duty to help our brothers in Christ get to heaven. We can’t do that if we are simultaneously tempting them and possibly harming their souls.

When the Blessed Mother appeared to the Shepard children in Fatima in 1917 she warned them that there would be new fashions that would cause many souls to fall into hell. She explained how much this would hurt her and her Son. Keeping eternity in mind for yourself and others, it makes a little more sense to want to be modest.

I myself am swearing off bikinis starting this summer, I know that no matter how much I desire to just do what everyone else is doing, and wear what they’re wearing, nothing is worth losing eternity for, whether it be for myself or for others.

So when you hit the stores for that annual trip, just remember that you can save yourself some of the stress and could possibly save souls by going for a more classy and modest look. I will be praying for all of you beautiful ladies. God loves you and so do I.

1 Corinthians 13